Question: What would Love do now?

In any dispute there are two or more sides. The best way to resolve a dispute is to own up 100% to your side of it. Disagreements happen. Miscommunication happens. But it?s what we do WHEN these things happen that really determines whom we are choosing to be and the outcome.

In the past I started a professional and personal relationship with a group of people. We were all loving people who wanted to bring more Love onto the planet. Yet, the first month or so of our relationships were really rocky.

It got to a point where I started feeling attacked by the other people. And when I feel attacked, I just shut down. And when I shut down, cold silence replaces compassionate communication. The more I closed down, the more intense the relationship became, to a point where both sides were just not happy with each other. For the whole month I had a story in my head about how these other people were ?wrong? and how I was ?right?.

Then a good buddy of mine who knows all of us called me up and mentioned he was aware of the situation. He asked me a question, which immediately melted my heart. He said, ?Mastin, what would Love do now??

In asking me that question, I immediately began to see how I was bringing fear, judgment and separation to this relationship. I expressed my concerns to my buddy, as he held a loving center for me to express myself. I began to feel lighter. I was seen, not judged and still Loved by my friend. The combination of my friend asking me this question and Loving me through my frustration showed me an example of how I needed to show up with the people I was having a disconnect with.

I prayed and asked The Uni-verse what I should do, and the answer I got back was, ?Own up to your part, apologize and give up the need to be right. Just be Love.? My ego, again, didn?t like this answer. But the levity I felt from the brief but powerful conversation with my friend was enough for me to realize what I had to do. YET AGAIN, I had to let Love kill my ego?s need to be right.

So I stepped into that awareness and intention. It actually felt better. I felt lighter. I saw the Love that is at the core of the people I had a disagreement with. I decided to speak to that Love from my core of Love. They called me and asked to set up a time to talk.

In that meeting they brought up a long list of things they had concerns about. It was such a wake-up call to me for how I could step up even more in this relationship and in my other relationships. I owned that when I feel attacked, I shut down. I owned that I created this ?attack? in my mind and apologized.

My ego was hating me, but as I took ownership over my actions, stepped into Love and apologized for my 50% of the problem, it began to ease the tensions between us.

Eventually, at the end of the conversation we had all returned to Love and the initial intention of why we started our relationship in the first place.

There is a power in having amazing friends. There is a power in owning up to our side of a disagreement. There is a power in being kind, vulnerable and humble enough to admit our wrongs and apologize without any desire to make the other party wrong.

You see, relationships are opportunities to grow, to learn and to evolve. The Uni-verse sends us relationships to polish us. When we stop making other people wrong and step into owning our role in things, we allow ourselves the sometimes painful gift of being polished. But, as Rumi says, ?If you are bothered by every rub, how will you ever be polished??

So, how is The Uni-verse polishing you lately so that you can come closer to Love? Let me know and leave a comment on the blog.

Love and polishing,

Mastin

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Mastin Kipp is the CEO and Founder of?The Daily?Love.?Follow him on Twitter?here.

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